Welcome to Farmville–Please Have Your I.D. Ready

Happy Aquarium
Recently, I reluctantly signed up for Facebook. The site’s grown too large for me to ignore it any longer—and Lord knows I have tried. Part of the reason I joined is because Facebook has become a huge platform for the delivery of games. Several people I know don’t consider themselves gamers, yet they play Facebook games on a regular basis, mostly to maintain their farms in Zynga’s FarmVille and aquariums in CrowdStar’s Happy Aquarium.
These real-time simulation games’ immense popularity and diverse audiences make them especially interesting to NCHEG. They mark a significant change in the way people play, learn, and relate to each other. They also represent a type of game play that has prompted numerous criticisms.
Some professional game developers have dismissed these games as glorified spreadsheets. In a recent conversation, NCHEG advisor Don Daglow half-joked with me that he could immediately cause passionate arguments at any table of game professionals by simply walking over to them and saying one word, “FarmVille”. Critics lambaste the use of virtual cash and micro transactions within the game, warning that it targets “young people to spend real money” or tricks users into subscribing to various services in return for virtual currency. The latter charge has earned FarmVille a “Controversy” content section in Wikipedia.

FarmVille
There is no doubt, though, that lots of people love these games. My eight-year-old daughter’s recent request for her own Facebook account is a case in point. It prompted a fervent discussion during which she experienced all five stages of grief within one Saturday. She spent much more time on the “anger” and “bargaining” stages than I would have preferred, but eventually we got to “acceptance.” And she now understands that Facebook is for those humans who have taken at least thirteen trips around the sun.
What is pertinent about all of that here is that she wanted a Facebook account for two reasons. First, she said she really likes to play Farmville and Happy Aquarium, which I completely understand. The themes and aesthetics of these games, which are enjoyed by players of all ages, appeal strongly to tweens. Secondly, she declared, “All my friends have Facebook.” If I were her age and I saw my mother or father or even grandmother playing these games, I’d feel short-changed as well. But in response to her request for Facebook as a necessary avenue to the games, I found myself repeating phrases I sworn I’d never use with my child: “If so-and-so’s mother let her play with razor blades….”

Kiley (she'll get over it)
Through both informal observation and surveying, I know that many children younger than thirteen years have Facebook accounts, and the reason is primarily so they can play games that are unavailable on other platforms. I understand why some parents allow this, but I chose not to capitulate for a few reasons. Although Facebook has lowered its minimum age to thirteen, it remains largely an adult social networking platform. I cannot limit the language or content my daughter would see on Facebook and I certainly cannot monitor her every interaction. I also find it unfair to expect adults to limit or monitor their conversations knowing there are “uninvited kids in the room.” Most importantly, my wife and I concur that letting our daughter lie about her age to gain access to a desirable product sets a bad precedent.
Although my daughter got over her disappointment quickly—I haven’t heard a peep about the subject since—the conversation has stuck with me. It is unfortunate that these games are not available to children under thirteen through some other means. Unlike the long-standing issue of children playing age-inappropriate games, the problem here is that these games are age appropriate but are unavailable because of age restrictions set by the delivery system.
In the future I’d love to see these games accessible through a different venue for children of all ages. Until then I’d appreciate feedback from our readers. Please answer the survey questions below (I promise anonymity!) and give us your comments and opinions on these Facebook issues.
I totally agree. It gets even worse for me when I’m playing my PS3 online. Now these games are rated but kids get ahold of them anyways. Only thing with these networked games you get a head set and talk to other people around the world. Well its not always nice talk at all. Theres F-bombs, racial slurs and out right mocking.
Parents really need to police this when considering online gaming. One of the big problems is (and i run into this cleaning up PC’s for my friends and family ) the parents arent that PC literate. They dont have seperate accounts for their children, they dont have firewalls setup with adult content filtering and no security limitations / settings.
They say it all starts at home well parents need to be aware of this. Ive seen kids that are more computer literate than their parents. We’ve all seen hacker movies etc., just imagine what a disgruntled smart kid could do with mommy and daddys credit card online.
i totally agree with your decision. there is no reason that you shouldn’t be able to oversee a majority of the stuff she sees on the facebook, let alone the internet in general. Also, keep the pic – a classic for her teen years to embarress her with.
I had almost the exact same facebook discussion with my ten year old – he wanted it to play mafia wars. Suffice to say he ended up at the same plane of acceptance without an account. Rules are rules. After all childhood lasts for such a short time – I keep telling him to enjoy being a kid because once its over you can’t go back – and then you have to go to work every day for the rest of your life.
I’m glad that you stood firm on your decision. Of course she will be frustrated, but an age limitation is an ongoing issue with every child or teenager.
There are plenty of age appropriate games elsewhere, I feel no pity for young children who are restricted from certain internet sites. This is why we have the entitlement generation, honestly, parents try to give in to their child’s every request AND they feel guilty when they have to say no. What happened to “NO, because i said you’re not ready, suck it up”.
Facebook began as a social networking site for harvard students only .. college age. Just because the bar sells soda doesn’t mean it’s an appropriate place for your kid. Buy her a book.
PS. I have 3 children, 18, 21 and 23, I’ve been through this. I just said no, because it’s my job to regulate and draw boundaries for my children.
Here’s a great CNN Article I came across about the good & bad of these Zynga games. Enjoy!
http://www.cnn.com/2010/TECH/02/23/facebook.games/index.html?hpt=C1
It’s a shame those popular games are not available in more child-friendly websites. Although, there are also sites featuring free games for kids. This site lists such games http://www.k-director.com/blog/23-best-educational-websites-and-tools-for-kids/comment-page-1/#comment-163700.
For educational iPhone games for adults, this is one of the coolest compilations I’ve come across so far http://hugapanda.com/blog/2010/05/15-educational-iphone-games-for-adults/.